This book, truthfully, is an ideal gift to Muslim brides, as mainly deals with the concerned affairs of newly married life e.g., How to live amicably with in-laws avoiding all domestic disputes and how to harmonise with the Husband's sentiments and preferences, to capture his heart and inclusive attention. Etc. etc.
The book also contains stories of some exemplary women, Imam Al-Ghazzali's advises and other precious parting advices as a light of guidance. By practising them a home can become a garden of Jannah.
This book should be read in sequence cover to cover and pass the advices on to other Muslim sisters.
How to read this book
This book ideals with people's domestic life. Since one's domestic happiness has a direct bearing on one's happiness outside the home, we advise that the contents of this book should be read with great earnestness and that the failings cautioned against should be avoided. Although these failings may result from immaturity and inexperience, they are nevertheless extremely harmful. One should read this book with the intention of reforming oneself. One will be able to avoid these failings if one reads this book with the following advices in mind:
1. Before reading the book, make Du'a to Allah saying, "O Allah! Make this book a means for my guidance and make me the delight of my husband's eyes and make me his most valuable asset."
2. Set aside such time for reading this book, which is free from disturbances and worries, because a mind that is preoccupied with other concerns will soon become weary with the subject matter of any book.
3. An important advice is that this book should be read in sequence from cover to cover even though this may take months. In fact, one should never grow despondent even if it takes longer than a few months. An easy way to ensure that one completes the book is to calculate a specific number of pages that one will read daily, based on the total number of pages in the book. A book mark should always be used to mark the page where one stops.
4. Another extremely important advice is that one should keep a pencil handy to mark places that mention something especially pertinent to one. These parts should be read many times and Du'a should be made to Allah to grant one the ability to practice accordingly.
Another benefit of keeping a pencil handy is that when reading, it may occur to one that some subject matter which may satisfy the thirst of some Muslim sister has not been included in this book. It may be that this subject pertains to a woman's life as a Muslim woman or as a wife or as a mother, or it may even be something that could terminate disputes. Should such a though occur to one, one should make a note of it under the heading of "Clarification" and bring it to the attention of the publisher or the compiler, specifying the page number and line number where it is to be added.
While reading the book, one should make Du'a to Allah that He creates love and affection between all married Muslim couples and that He makes them all a means of rearing pious children. One should make Du'a daily that Allah keeps them all happy together with all those getting married. Together with reading this book and progressing spiritually and morally, one should also pass these advices on to other women.
The final request to the reader is to make Du'a for the compiler of this book, the people who authored the books from which information was taken and all those who assisted in this publication in any way. Of course, the person making the Du'a will never be deprived of the good of the Du'a May Allah reward you all tremendously.
Introduction
This book cites the sterling examples of six women during the time of Rasulullah. The lessons that this book teaches include:
Obeying the husband
True love for the husband
Honouring and serving the husband
Being loyal towards the husband
Making one's husband a Muslim or a pious person
Qualities of a good wife
How to remain the beloved of one's husband
Bad habits of women and ways of losing them
How to live in harmony with one's in-laws
The rights that women owe to their husbands
Advice for the married couple
Formulas to avoid disputes between a bride and her husband, mother-in-law and sisters-in-law, which often lead to premature separations and bitter feelings between entire families.
Besides the above there are many other subjects and solutions discussed. By practicing the teachings of this book, a home can become a garden of Jannah and means of attaining success in this world and in the Aakhirah (Hereafter).
How to read this book | xv |
Introduction | xviii |
Save your Husbands from Sin | xx |
The First advice | xxiii |
The Second advice | xiv |
The Third advice | xiv |
The Fourth advice | xiv |
The Fifth advice | xiv |
The Sixth advice | xxv |
Foreword | xxvi |
An Offering of Thanks to Rasulullah from all Muslim Women | xxix |
The Six Exemplary Women | xxx |
Why women were Created | xxxi |
The testimony of the Qur'an | xxxiii |
The Du'a of Allah's Sincere Bondsmen | xxxiv |
The Pious Wife | xxxvi |
Islam's Standard of Judging a Good Wife | xxxvii |
Hazrat Khadija | 01 |
Her Lineage | 01 |
Hazrat Khadija Comforts Rasulullah | 02 |
Sacrificing One's Wealth for One's Husband | 07 |
Advising the Husband Correctly | 10 |
Making Sacrifices for the Husband | 14 |
Serving the Husband | 16 |
Obeying the Husband Completely | 19 |
Some Ahadith Concerning Obeying the Husband and Fulfilling his Rights | 20 |
The Advice of a Pious Father to his Daughter to be Married | 24 |
An obedient Wife | 25 |
The Demise of Hazrat Khadija | 27 |
Du'a | 28 |
Salutations of Peace from Us all | 29 |
Hazrat Sauda bint Zam'ah | 32 |
Conversion to Islam | 32 |
Forfeiting her Turn for the pleasure of her Husband | 33 |
Sincerely Obeying the Husband | 34 |
Generosity | 36 |
An Easy Way of Becoming Generous | 37 |
The Testimony of a Co-Wife | 37 |
Her Demise | 37 |
Hazrat Zainab bing Muhammad | 39 |
A loyal Wife | 39 |
Separation from her Husband | 40 |
Loyalty to her Husband | 41 |
Testimony of the Husband | 44 |
Love for the Husband | 47 |
Women who make men old before their time | 49 |
The Good Influence that a Pious Mother has on her Daughter | 52 |
Hazrat Ruqaiyya bint Muhammad | 55 |
The Wife of Hazrat Usman | 55 |
The Second Migration | 56 |
The Demise of Hazrat Ruqaiyya | 57 |
Hazrat Ummu Hakeen bint Haarith | 59 |
Sacrifice | 59 |
Concern for her Husband | 59 |
Her Second Marriage | 60 |
It is the Responsibility of the Wife to Make her Husband Lead a Pious Life | 61 |
Making her Husband a Muslim Through Marriage | 63 |
An example of a Woman changing her Husband from the Better | 64 |
There is no Harm for a widow to Remarry | 66 |
A Woman Without a Husband is a Pauper | 70 |
Marriage brings Wealth and Averts Poverty | 72 |
Why is it Necessary for a Widow to Remarry | 73 |
An Incident of a Saint | 75 |
Khowla bint Maalik bin Tha'laba | 76 |
Being Patient with an Aged Husband | 80 |
What should the Wife do when her Husband is at Fault? | 81 |
The Failing of Husband and Wife and a Word of Caution to Both | 82 |
The First Incident | 84 |
The Second Incident | 85 |
The Etiquette of Entering a Home | 86 |
First Greet with Salaam and then Ask Permission to Enter | 86 |
Identify Yourself when Requesting Permission to Enter | 87 |
One should Thrice Seek Permission to Enter | 88 |
Never Knock the Door too Loudly | 88 |
Reducing Anger | 89 |
The First Cure for Anger | 91 |
The Second Cure | 92 |
The Third Cure | 93 |
The Fourth Cure | 93 |
The Fifth Cure | 94 |
The Sixth Cure | 95 |
The Deadly Poison of Backchating | 96 |
Be concerned about Your Husband's Comfort | 97 |
Make your Husband your Friend | 98 |
How to make your Husband your Friend | 98 |
Factors that Attract the Husband | 99 |
A Wife Should Never Look Down on Her Husband | 100 |
Diagnosis and Treatment of Two Evil Traits in Many Women | |
The First Evil Trait | 101 |
An Interesting Incident | 104 |
A Du'a that Every Woman Should Make | 105 |
The Second Evil Trait | 106 |
Animosity between Women Causes Animosity Between Men | 108 |
An Appeal to Men | 109 |
Caring for Orphaned Brother and Sisters-in-law | 112 |
Two Principles for Avoiding Domestic Disputes | 113 |
The First Principle | 113 |
The Second Principle | 115 |
An Excellent Method of Softening One's Husband | 118 |
A Miracle Cure | 120 |
A woman's Ability to Tame a Man | 121 |
Women Cannot be Equal to Men | 123 |
An Effective Manner to Creating Love in Your Husband's Heart | 124 |
When Allah Looks at a Couple with Love and Mercy | 124 |
A Smile Revives the Heart | 126 |
A Pious Lady called Hazrat Ummu Saleem | 128 |
As a Preacher | 128 |
As a Warrior | 129 |
As a Pillar of Fortitude and Wisdom | 129 |
Rasulullah Concern for her | 131 |
Her Sacrifices for the Propagation of Deen and the Glad Tidings of Rasulullah | 131 |
Women were also Muftis | 135 |
Five Qualities of a Pious Wife | 136 |
The First Quality | 137 |
Hazrat Abu Dardaa Advises his Wife | 138 |
Uniting Two Hearts | 140 |
The Jihaad of Women | 141 |
The Second Quality | 142 |
A Grave Error of Many Women | 142 |
The Third Quality | 143 |
The Fourth Quality | 144 |
A Wife Should be Genuinely Concerned about her Husband's Wealth | 145 |
Lavish Weddings | 146 |
Hosting Simple Marriage Ceremonies | 147 |
The Fifth Quality | 148 |
A Formula that will Eliminate Dispute between Couples | 150 |
The Story of Hazrat Isma'eel First Wife | 153 |
The Story of Hazrat Isma'eel Second Wife | 154 |
Both Husband and Wife should exercise patience | 156 |
When Something Goes Wrong | 158 |
Advice to Women | 161 |
Keeping the Husband Feeling in Mind | 161 |
An Unparalleled Relationship | 162 |
How I conquered My Husband | 163 |
Do not Divorce me | 165 |
Never ask for Anything above your Husband's Means | 169 |
How an intelligent Woman Runs her Home | 171 |
The Etiquette of Meeting one's Husband when he Returns from a Journey | 172 |
Take Good Care of Your Husband Possessions | 173 |
What a Wife Should be when her Husband Becomes Angry | 174 |
The Approach of a Wise Wife | 175 |
When a Husband Strikes up an Extra Marital Relationship | 176 |
How to live amicably with In Laws | 177 |
Some Advices | 178 |
Ponder Awhile | 181 |
How a Woman can become her Husband Darling | 183 |
The Couple should be Pious and united | 183 |
Women Entering Jannah before Their Husbands | 186 |
The person who Refuses to be a Servant of One will be the Slave of Thousand | 186 |
The strange Psychology of a New Culture | 188 |
To Summarise: | 189 |
Progress or Destruction>? | 189 |
Recognizing the Husband's Temperament | 191 |
Praising the Husband and Having True Love for Him | 192 |
A Principle to Follow for a Sound Relationship between Husband and Wife | 197 |
A Sign of True love | 199 |
The Woman who will Enter Jannah | 200 |
Cooking Good food for Him | 201 |
Imam Ghazali Advice to the Bride | 206 |
A special Practice | 207 |
The Rewards for Carrying Out One's Domestic Chores | 208 |
Doing the Housework | 209 |
The Domestic Life of Hazrat Faatima | 210 |
Acquiring Skills | 211 |
The Routine of a Pious Wife | 212 |
Learning a lesson from the life of Hazrat Faatima | 214 |
Rights pertaining to Wealth | 215 |
Hazrat A'isha Spends on others | 217 |
A Wife who used to spend on Allah's Pious Bondsmen | 218 |
A woman who Entertained Guests | 219 |
The Queen Zubayda | 221 |
An important Right of the Husband that Woman are Heedless About | 223 |
A woman should Respond Immediately | 225 |
Nikaah is the Means of Securing Chastity | 226 |
The Woman Whom the angels Curse | 226 |
The Opinion of Experts in the Field of Psychology | 228 |
Nafl Fasts may be Observed Only With the Husband's Permission | 231 |
Obeying One's Husband is more Important than Nafl Acts of Worship | 232 |
A Mother's Advice to her Daughter | 232 |
A Groom's Gift to his Bride | 234 |
Some Golden Principles for Every Bride to Follow | 236 |
How to Live in your Parent's Home | 240 |
The Manner of Living with One's Husband | 241 |
Capturing your Husband's heart | 242 |
Every woman's Wish | 247 |
Learn to love your Husband | 248 |
Conquer His Heart | 248 |
You Mind Your Own Business and I'll Mind Mine | 248 |
Secure Fasten the Bond of Love | 249 |
Identify his Preferences | 249 |
What Do Men like? | 250 |
A Dialogue between Mother and Daughter | 253 |
The Mother's Reply | 254 |
Disputes between Mother's and Daughters-in-Law | 257 |
The Evil of Disputes and Arguments | 258 |
Disputes Caused by the Mother-in-Law | 259 |
Disputes Caused by Sister-in-Law | 260 |
How Every Mother-in-Law Should Think | 261 |
How the Daughter-in-Law Should Think | 264 |
A House Burned Down By its Own Lantern | 267 |
Parting Advice | 278 |
The Precious Parting Gift of a Father to his Daughter Hafsa | 280 |
The Etiquette of Leaving Home | 282 |
The Du'as that Women Make for Their Husbands Every Morning | 283 |
The Etiquette of Conversing with One's Husband | 286 |
What a Wife Should Never Do | 292 |
The Formulae for Avoiding all Types of Troubles | 302 |
Every Woman Should Think for Herself | 306 |
A woman should not Disclose her family Secrets to her Husband | 306 |
An Incident to Illustrate How Molehills Become Mountains | 307 |
The Couple should never Reveal Their Private Lives to Others | 311 |
Guarding the Husband's Secret | 313 |
Harmonising One's Sentiments and Preferences with those of one's Husband | 314 |
A Good Wife is Content with what Allah Decides | 318 |
How an Intelligent Wife Should Deal with a Foolish Husband | 319 |
A good Wife is Always Loyal to her Husband | 325 |
A Mother's Advice to her Daughter on the Night of her Marriage | 329 |
A Father's Advice to his Daughter | 332 |
The Advice of Hazrat Maulana Muhammad Ahmad Surti to his Daughter | 335 |
The Importance of Keeping the Children Clean and Tidy | 350 |
Using perfume for the Husband | 356 |
Honeymoons | 359 |
Your Husband is Either your Jannah or Your Jahannam | 365 |
A Comparison Between Two Women | 366 |
How Can One Tired Person Comfort Another Tired Person | 375 |
The Perfect Wife | 377 |
True love Between Husband and Wife | 379 |
How is a Beautiful Woman | 382 |
Opening the Locks to Your Husband's Heart | 385 |
1) Sight | 386 |
2) Hearing | 387 |
3) Smell | 388 |
The Importance of Oral Hygiene | 390 |
4) Touch | 395 |
5) Taste | 395 |
The Etiquette of Writing a Letter to Your Husband | 397 |
A Letter to a beloved | 401 |
Pinning One's Hopes Only in Allah | 403 |
A good Turn is Never Forgotten | 407 |
There is a Great woman behind Every Successful Man | 409 |
The Description of a perfect Wife | 413 |
Advices for a Bride | 416 |
Salaah | 417 |
Hijaab | 417 |
Abstaining from Photographing and Videoing | 422 |
Beauty Salons | 424 |
Avoiding Ta'weezaat That do not Conform with the Shari'ah | 430 |
Avoiding Jealousy | 431 |
When a Woman has the Ill-Fortune of Being Married to a Constantly Warning Ingrate | 432 |
A Valuable Lesson for Every Good Wife | 440 |
Courting After the Engagement | 441 |
Never Shake Hands with Non- Mahram Men | 443 |
Rasulullah Advice to Women | 445 |
He Earns but she Reaps the Reward | 446 |
The Virtues of Sadaqah | 448 |
The Harms of Hoarding | 451 |
The Rights of Neighbours | 454 |
Behaviours with One's Neighbours | 455 |
A Good Neighbours | 457 |
Observing Hijaab in Front of Neighbours | 457 |
A Wife with Salash | 458 |
Stealing From One's Salaah | 460 |
Other Deficiencies in our Salaah | 461 |
The Salaah of a Woman | 468 |
When Commencing Salaah | 469 |
When standing Upright | 470 |
When in Ruku | 471 |
Getting up from Ruku | 472 |
When in Sajdah | 473 |
Sitting between Sajood | 473 |
The Second Sajdah | 474 |
In Qa'edah | 475 |
When Ending the Salaah with Salaam | 475 |
Making Du'a | 476 |
The Method of Making Du'a | 476 |
Du'a After the Farz Salaah | 476 |
An Excellent Du'a for Every Woman | 478 |
Du'a for a Good Partner | 478 |
The Du'a After Marriage | 480 |
Du'as for Protection from an Evil Husband and an Cruel Mother-in-Law | 481 |
Waking Up at Night to Make Du'a | 483 |
Ten Practices of Rasulullah | 485 |
The Method of Greeting | 489 |
The Benefits of Greeting | 490 |
The Meaning of the Salaam | 491 |
Another Meaning of Salaam | 491 |
The Islamic Greeting is Better than any other Form of Greeting | 492 |
In a Nutshell | 492 |
An Important Ruling | 494 |
Simplicity | 499 |
Rasulullah Marries and Hosts a Waleema Function While on Journey | 503 |
Oppressive Mother-in-Law | 505 |
The Jaheaz | 507 |
The Jaheaz is a Hindu Custom | 511 |
A Misconception | 512 |
Giving a Gold Necklace to the Groom's Mother | 515 |
Feeding the Bride's in-Laws | 518 |
The Marriage and Waleema According to the Sunnah | 520 |
To Summaries | 523 |
Wives Owe the Rights to their Husbands | 523 |
Parting Advice for the Bride | 524 |
The Du'a for a Married Couple | 526 |
Reply Clearly | 528 |
Have Mercy on Your Children | 530 |
An Estranged Wife's Letter to her Husband | 533 |
The Husband Reply | 540 |
The Story Afterwards | 541 |
My Advice to My Sisters | 542 |
An Examination Paper | 543 |
The Last Will and Testament of a Muslim | 547 |
A Good Husband parting words to his Wife | 548 |
A Good Wife's parting Words to her Husband | 552 |
Some Beneficial books for Women to Read | 554 |
In Conclusion | 557 |
This book, truthfully, is an ideal gift to Muslim brides, as mainly deals with the concerned affairs of newly married life e.g., How to live amicably with in-laws avoiding all domestic disputes and how to harmonise with the Husband's sentiments and preferences, to capture his heart and inclusive attention. Etc. etc.
The book also contains stories of some exemplary women, Imam Al-Ghazzali's advises and other precious parting advices as a light of guidance. By practising them a home can become a garden of Jannah.
This book should be read in sequence cover to cover and pass the advices on to other Muslim sisters.
How to read this book
This book ideals with people's domestic life. Since one's domestic happiness has a direct bearing on one's happiness outside the home, we advise that the contents of this book should be read with great earnestness and that the failings cautioned against should be avoided. Although these failings may result from immaturity and inexperience, they are nevertheless extremely harmful. One should read this book with the intention of reforming oneself. One will be able to avoid these failings if one reads this book with the following advices in mind:
1. Before reading the book, make Du'a to Allah saying, "O Allah! Make this book a means for my guidance and make me the delight of my husband's eyes and make me his most valuable asset."
2. Set aside such time for reading this book, which is free from disturbances and worries, because a mind that is preoccupied with other concerns will soon become weary with the subject matter of any book.
3. An important advice is that this book should be read in sequence from cover to cover even though this may take months. In fact, one should never grow despondent even if it takes longer than a few months. An easy way to ensure that one completes the book is to calculate a specific number of pages that one will read daily, based on the total number of pages in the book. A book mark should always be used to mark the page where one stops.
4. Another extremely important advice is that one should keep a pencil handy to mark places that mention something especially pertinent to one. These parts should be read many times and Du'a should be made to Allah to grant one the ability to practice accordingly.
Another benefit of keeping a pencil handy is that when reading, it may occur to one that some subject matter which may satisfy the thirst of some Muslim sister has not been included in this book. It may be that this subject pertains to a woman's life as a Muslim woman or as a wife or as a mother, or it may even be something that could terminate disputes. Should such a though occur to one, one should make a note of it under the heading of "Clarification" and bring it to the attention of the publisher or the compiler, specifying the page number and line number where it is to be added.
While reading the book, one should make Du'a to Allah that He creates love and affection between all married Muslim couples and that He makes them all a means of rearing pious children. One should make Du'a daily that Allah keeps them all happy together with all those getting married. Together with reading this book and progressing spiritually and morally, one should also pass these advices on to other women.
The final request to the reader is to make Du'a for the compiler of this book, the people who authored the books from which information was taken and all those who assisted in this publication in any way. Of course, the person making the Du'a will never be deprived of the good of the Du'a May Allah reward you all tremendously.
Introduction
This book cites the sterling examples of six women during the time of Rasulullah. The lessons that this book teaches include:
Obeying the husband
True love for the husband
Honouring and serving the husband
Being loyal towards the husband
Making one's husband a Muslim or a pious person
Qualities of a good wife
How to remain the beloved of one's husband
Bad habits of women and ways of losing them
How to live in harmony with one's in-laws
The rights that women owe to their husbands
Advice for the married couple
Formulas to avoid disputes between a bride and her husband, mother-in-law and sisters-in-law, which often lead to premature separations and bitter feelings between entire families.
Besides the above there are many other subjects and solutions discussed. By practicing the teachings of this book, a home can become a garden of Jannah and means of attaining success in this world and in the Aakhirah (Hereafter).
How to read this book | xv |
Introduction | xviii |
Save your Husbands from Sin | xx |
The First advice | xxiii |
The Second advice | xiv |
The Third advice | xiv |
The Fourth advice | xiv |
The Fifth advice | xiv |
The Sixth advice | xxv |
Foreword | xxvi |
An Offering of Thanks to Rasulullah from all Muslim Women | xxix |
The Six Exemplary Women | xxx |
Why women were Created | xxxi |
The testimony of the Qur'an | xxxiii |
The Du'a of Allah's Sincere Bondsmen | xxxiv |
The Pious Wife | xxxvi |
Islam's Standard of Judging a Good Wife | xxxvii |
Hazrat Khadija | 01 |
Her Lineage | 01 |
Hazrat Khadija Comforts Rasulullah | 02 |
Sacrificing One's Wealth for One's Husband | 07 |
Advising the Husband Correctly | 10 |
Making Sacrifices for the Husband | 14 |
Serving the Husband | 16 |
Obeying the Husband Completely | 19 |
Some Ahadith Concerning Obeying the Husband and Fulfilling his Rights | 20 |
The Advice of a Pious Father to his Daughter to be Married | 24 |
An obedient Wife | 25 |
The Demise of Hazrat Khadija | 27 |
Du'a | 28 |
Salutations of Peace from Us all | 29 |
Hazrat Sauda bint Zam'ah | 32 |
Conversion to Islam | 32 |
Forfeiting her Turn for the pleasure of her Husband | 33 |
Sincerely Obeying the Husband | 34 |
Generosity | 36 |
An Easy Way of Becoming Generous | 37 |
The Testimony of a Co-Wife | 37 |
Her Demise | 37 |
Hazrat Zainab bing Muhammad | 39 |
A loyal Wife | 39 |
Separation from her Husband | 40 |
Loyalty to her Husband | 41 |
Testimony of the Husband | 44 |
Love for the Husband | 47 |
Women who make men old before their time | 49 |
The Good Influence that a Pious Mother has on her Daughter | 52 |
Hazrat Ruqaiyya bint Muhammad | 55 |
The Wife of Hazrat Usman | 55 |
The Second Migration | 56 |
The Demise of Hazrat Ruqaiyya | 57 |
Hazrat Ummu Hakeen bint Haarith | 59 |
Sacrifice | 59 |
Concern for her Husband | 59 |
Her Second Marriage | 60 |
It is the Responsibility of the Wife to Make her Husband Lead a Pious Life | 61 |
Making her Husband a Muslim Through Marriage | 63 |
An example of a Woman changing her Husband from the Better | 64 |
There is no Harm for a widow to Remarry | 66 |
A Woman Without a Husband is a Pauper | 70 |
Marriage brings Wealth and Averts Poverty | 72 |
Why is it Necessary for a Widow to Remarry | 73 |
An Incident of a Saint | 75 |
Khowla bint Maalik bin Tha'laba | 76 |
Being Patient with an Aged Husband | 80 |
What should the Wife do when her Husband is at Fault? | 81 |
The Failing of Husband and Wife and a Word of Caution to Both | 82 |
The First Incident | 84 |
The Second Incident | 85 |
The Etiquette of Entering a Home | 86 |
First Greet with Salaam and then Ask Permission to Enter | 86 |
Identify Yourself when Requesting Permission to Enter | 87 |
One should Thrice Seek Permission to Enter | 88 |
Never Knock the Door too Loudly | 88 |
Reducing Anger | 89 |
The First Cure for Anger | 91 |
The Second Cure | 92 |
The Third Cure | 93 |
The Fourth Cure | 93 |
The Fifth Cure | 94 |
The Sixth Cure | 95 |
The Deadly Poison of Backchating | 96 |
Be concerned about Your Husband's Comfort | 97 |
Make your Husband your Friend | 98 |
How to make your Husband your Friend | 98 |
Factors that Attract the Husband | 99 |
A Wife Should Never Look Down on Her Husband | 100 |
Diagnosis and Treatment of Two Evil Traits in Many Women | |
The First Evil Trait | 101 |
An Interesting Incident | 104 |
A Du'a that Every Woman Should Make | 105 |
The Second Evil Trait | 106 |
Animosity between Women Causes Animosity Between Men | 108 |
An Appeal to Men | 109 |
Caring for Orphaned Brother and Sisters-in-law | 112 |
Two Principles for Avoiding Domestic Disputes | 113 |
The First Principle | 113 |
The Second Principle | 115 |
An Excellent Method of Softening One's Husband | 118 |
A Miracle Cure | 120 |
A woman's Ability to Tame a Man | 121 |
Women Cannot be Equal to Men | 123 |
An Effective Manner to Creating Love in Your Husband's Heart | 124 |
When Allah Looks at a Couple with Love and Mercy | 124 |
A Smile Revives the Heart | 126 |
A Pious Lady called Hazrat Ummu Saleem | 128 |
As a Preacher | 128 |
As a Warrior | 129 |
As a Pillar of Fortitude and Wisdom | 129 |
Rasulullah Concern for her | 131 |
Her Sacrifices for the Propagation of Deen and the Glad Tidings of Rasulullah | 131 |
Women were also Muftis | 135 |
Five Qualities of a Pious Wife | 136 |
The First Quality | 137 |
Hazrat Abu Dardaa Advises his Wife | 138 |
Uniting Two Hearts | 140 |
The Jihaad of Women | 141 |
The Second Quality | 142 |
A Grave Error of Many Women | 142 |
The Third Quality | 143 |
The Fourth Quality | 144 |
A Wife Should be Genuinely Concerned about her Husband's Wealth | 145 |
Lavish Weddings | 146 |
Hosting Simple Marriage Ceremonies | 147 |
The Fifth Quality | 148 |
A Formula that will Eliminate Dispute between Couples | 150 |
The Story of Hazrat Isma'eel First Wife | 153 |
The Story of Hazrat Isma'eel Second Wife | 154 |
Both Husband and Wife should exercise patience | 156 |
When Something Goes Wrong | 158 |
Advice to Women | 161 |
Keeping the Husband Feeling in Mind | 161 |
An Unparalleled Relationship | 162 |
How I conquered My Husband | 163 |
Do not Divorce me | 165 |
Never ask for Anything above your Husband's Means | 169 |
How an intelligent Woman Runs her Home | 171 |
The Etiquette of Meeting one's Husband when he Returns from a Journey | 172 |
Take Good Care of Your Husband Possessions | 173 |
What a Wife Should be when her Husband Becomes Angry | 174 |
The Approach of a Wise Wife | 175 |
When a Husband Strikes up an Extra Marital Relationship | 176 |
How to live amicably with In Laws | 177 |
Some Advices | 178 |
Ponder Awhile | 181 |
How a Woman can become her Husband Darling | 183 |
The Couple should be Pious and united | 183 |
Women Entering Jannah before Their Husbands | 186 |
The person who Refuses to be a Servant of One will be the Slave of Thousand | 186 |
The strange Psychology of a New Culture | 188 |
To Summarise: | 189 |
Progress or Destruction>? | 189 |
Recognizing the Husband's Temperament | 191 |
Praising the Husband and Having True Love for Him | 192 |
A Principle to Follow for a Sound Relationship between Husband and Wife | 197 |
A Sign of True love | 199 |
The Woman who will Enter Jannah | 200 |
Cooking Good food for Him | 201 |
Imam Ghazali Advice to the Bride | 206 |
A special Practice | 207 |
The Rewards for Carrying Out One's Domestic Chores | 208 |
Doing the Housework | 209 |
The Domestic Life of Hazrat Faatima | 210 |
Acquiring Skills | 211 |
The Routine of a Pious Wife | 212 |
Learning a lesson from the life of Hazrat Faatima | 214 |
Rights pertaining to Wealth | 215 |
Hazrat A'isha Spends on others | 217 |
A Wife who used to spend on Allah's Pious Bondsmen | 218 |
A woman who Entertained Guests | 219 |
The Queen Zubayda | 221 |
An important Right of the Husband that Woman are Heedless About | 223 |
A woman should Respond Immediately | 225 |
Nikaah is the Means of Securing Chastity | 226 |
The Woman Whom the angels Curse | 226 |
The Opinion of Experts in the Field of Psychology | 228 |
Nafl Fasts may be Observed Only With the Husband's Permission | 231 |
Obeying One's Husband is more Important than Nafl Acts of Worship | 232 |
A Mother's Advice to her Daughter | 232 |
A Groom's Gift to his Bride | 234 |
Some Golden Principles for Every Bride to Follow | 236 |
How to Live in your Parent's Home | 240 |
The Manner of Living with One's Husband | 241 |
Capturing your Husband's heart | 242 |
Every woman's Wish | 247 |
Learn to love your Husband | 248 |
Conquer His Heart | 248 |
You Mind Your Own Business and I'll Mind Mine | 248 |
Secure Fasten the Bond of Love | 249 |
Identify his Preferences | 249 |
What Do Men like? | 250 |
A Dialogue between Mother and Daughter | 253 |
The Mother's Reply | 254 |
Disputes between Mother's and Daughters-in-Law | 257 |
The Evil of Disputes and Arguments | 258 |
Disputes Caused by the Mother-in-Law | 259 |
Disputes Caused by Sister-in-Law | 260 |
How Every Mother-in-Law Should Think | 261 |
How the Daughter-in-Law Should Think | 264 |
A House Burned Down By its Own Lantern | 267 |
Parting Advice | 278 |
The Precious Parting Gift of a Father to his Daughter Hafsa | 280 |
The Etiquette of Leaving Home | 282 |
The Du'as that Women Make for Their Husbands Every Morning | 283 |
The Etiquette of Conversing with One's Husband | 286 |
What a Wife Should Never Do | 292 |
The Formulae for Avoiding all Types of Troubles | 302 |
Every Woman Should Think for Herself | 306 |
A woman should not Disclose her family Secrets to her Husband | 306 |
An Incident to Illustrate How Molehills Become Mountains | 307 |
The Couple should never Reveal Their Private Lives to Others | 311 |
Guarding the Husband's Secret | 313 |
Harmonising One's Sentiments and Preferences with those of one's Husband | 314 |
A Good Wife is Content with what Allah Decides | 318 |
How an Intelligent Wife Should Deal with a Foolish Husband | 319 |
A good Wife is Always Loyal to her Husband | 325 |
A Mother's Advice to her Daughter on the Night of her Marriage | 329 |
A Father's Advice to his Daughter | 332 |
The Advice of Hazrat Maulana Muhammad Ahmad Surti to his Daughter | 335 |
The Importance of Keeping the Children Clean and Tidy | 350 |
Using perfume for the Husband | 356 |
Honeymoons | 359 |
Your Husband is Either your Jannah or Your Jahannam | 365 |
A Comparison Between Two Women | 366 |
How Can One Tired Person Comfort Another Tired Person | 375 |
The Perfect Wife | 377 |
True love Between Husband and Wife | 379 |
How is a Beautiful Woman | 382 |
Opening the Locks to Your Husband's Heart | 385 |
1) Sight | 386 |
2) Hearing | 387 |
3) Smell | 388 |
The Importance of Oral Hygiene | 390 |
4) Touch | 395 |
5) Taste | 395 |
The Etiquette of Writing a Letter to Your Husband | 397 |
A Letter to a beloved | 401 |
Pinning One's Hopes Only in Allah | 403 |
A good Turn is Never Forgotten | 407 |
There is a Great woman behind Every Successful Man | 409 |
The Description of a perfect Wife | 413 |
Advices for a Bride | 416 |
Salaah | 417 |
Hijaab | 417 |
Abstaining from Photographing and Videoing | 422 |
Beauty Salons | 424 |
Avoiding Ta'weezaat That do not Conform with the Shari'ah | 430 |
Avoiding Jealousy | 431 |
When a Woman has the Ill-Fortune of Being Married to a Constantly Warning Ingrate | 432 |
A Valuable Lesson for Every Good Wife | 440 |
Courting After the Engagement | 441 |
Never Shake Hands with Non- Mahram Men | 443 |
Rasulullah Advice to Women | 445 |
He Earns but she Reaps the Reward | 446 |
The Virtues of Sadaqah | 448 |
The Harms of Hoarding | 451 |
The Rights of Neighbours | 454 |
Behaviours with One's Neighbours | 455 |
A Good Neighbours | 457 |
Observing Hijaab in Front of Neighbours | 457 |
A Wife with Salash | 458 |
Stealing From One's Salaah | 460 |
Other Deficiencies in our Salaah | 461 |
The Salaah of a Woman | 468 |
When Commencing Salaah | 469 |
When standing Upright | 470 |
When in Ruku | 471 |
Getting up from Ruku | 472 |
When in Sajdah | 473 |
Sitting between Sajood | 473 |
The Second Sajdah | 474 |
In Qa'edah | 475 |
When Ending the Salaah with Salaam | 475 |
Making Du'a | 476 |
The Method of Making Du'a | 476 |
Du'a After the Farz Salaah | 476 |
An Excellent Du'a for Every Woman | 478 |
Du'a for a Good Partner | 478 |
The Du'a After Marriage | 480 |
Du'as for Protection from an Evil Husband and an Cruel Mother-in-Law | 481 |
Waking Up at Night to Make Du'a | 483 |
Ten Practices of Rasulullah | 485 |
The Method of Greeting | 489 |
The Benefits of Greeting | 490 |
The Meaning of the Salaam | 491 |
Another Meaning of Salaam | 491 |
The Islamic Greeting is Better than any other Form of Greeting | 492 |
In a Nutshell | 492 |
An Important Ruling | 494 |
Simplicity | 499 |
Rasulullah Marries and Hosts a Waleema Function While on Journey | 503 |
Oppressive Mother-in-Law | 505 |
The Jaheaz | 507 |
The Jaheaz is a Hindu Custom | 511 |
A Misconception | 512 |
Giving a Gold Necklace to the Groom's Mother | 515 |
Feeding the Bride's in-Laws | 518 |
The Marriage and Waleema According to the Sunnah | 520 |
To Summaries | 523 |
Wives Owe the Rights to their Husbands | 523 |
Parting Advice for the Bride | 524 |
The Du'a for a Married Couple | 526 |
Reply Clearly | 528 |
Have Mercy on Your Children | 530 |
An Estranged Wife's Letter to her Husband | 533 |
The Husband Reply | 540 |
The Story Afterwards | 541 |
My Advice to My Sisters | 542 |
An Examination Paper | 543 |
The Last Will and Testament of a Muslim | 547 |
A Good Husband parting words to his Wife | 548 |
A Good Wife's parting Words to her Husband | 552 |
Some Beneficial books for Women to Read | 554 |
In Conclusion | 557 |